If there's one thing I've realized with Adam's more frequent traveling, it's that he must be the source of some of my patience, because when he's gone my fuse is much shorter with the kids.
All the pressure is on me to get everything done--going in 3 different directions all at once, with no backup, and I guess I'm just no good under pressure.
I know I shouldn't complain because moms do this all the time. And really, it's not that big of a deal for a few days at a time, but when you're so used to parenting as a team and having that backup, it's difficult when your teammate has to bail. Because apparently Aidan and Logan only do something after both Adam and I have asked them...more than once.
I have a sneaking suspicion though, that if Aidan and Logan would just LISTEN to me and do something the FIRST time I ask, I would have patience to spare! And if they would just quit riling each other up while I'm tending to Lorelai (and quit riling her up while I'm tending to the house), maybe they would actually be able to hear me without me having to yell. A novel concept that they clearly don't understand yet. They also apparently don't understand that they have to shower, brush teeth, pick out their clothes and pick up their toys EVERY NIGHT. OMG.
Sigh, we all miss him. And my patience.
(But I'm really going to work on developing that patience to spare.)
I'm not the only one?! My husband doesn't travel with work, but some nights he's out late and I have to do the supper-play-showers-bedtime routine by myself. Like today. And it didn't go well. I'm so crabby at myself for being crabby at my little guys, but seriously--would they just do what they know is right?! Sigh... Hang in there!
ReplyDeleteGlad I'm not the only one! Strength in numbers :)
DeleteI'm on team no patience without husband around. I give mad props to all the single moms out there that do it themselves all the time. It is EXHAUSTING to be the only one to do everything!
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