Wednesday, November 20, 2013

What does love mean?

As I was cleaning up my (embarrassingly out of control) work inbox, I came across an old email forward about what love means to children. It inspired me to ask each of my kids "what does love mean?" so I took them each aside tonight and asked them the question separately, and their answers melted my heart:

Aidan, age 9: "Love is liking people in your family forever. It's liking people with all of your heart. (...It's so hard to describe!)"

Logan, age 7: "When you're in a family and you take care of each other. It's a feeling that makes you happy and grateful for your family because you never stop loving them."

Lorelai, age 3: "Ummmm....hugs and kisses! And Peaches!"

And to me? Love means my heart is bursting with joy because these four are in my life, and I would do anything for them.

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And here's the email forward that inspired me, for your reading pleasure:

A group of professionals posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year olds, 'What does love mean?' The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think:

"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore.. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love." ~Rebecca, age 8

"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth." ~Billy, age 4

"Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other." ~Karl, age 5

"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs." ~Chrissy, age 6

"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired." ~Terri, age 4

"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK." ~Danny, age 7

"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss." ~Emily, age 8

"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents
And listen." ~Bobby, age 7 (Wow!)

"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate." ~Nikka, age 6 (we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)

"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it every day." ~Noelle, age 7

"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well." ~Tommy, age 6

"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.
He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore." ~Cindy, age 8

"My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night." ~Clare, age 6

"Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken." ~Elaine, age 5

"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford." ~Chris, age 7

"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day." ~Mary Ann, age 4

"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones." ~Lauren, age 4

"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." ~Karen, age 7

"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross." ~Mark, age 6

"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget." ~Jessica, age 8

And the final one:

The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, "Nothing, I just helped him cry."


  1. Becky, this is so sweet! I love it, and will likely do something similar as M gets a little older.
    It might be fun to pose this question each year as they get older to see how their answers change. I hope Lorelai always ends her thoughts of love with peaches. :)

    1. You should! I love the idea of asking them every year to see how their answers change, thanks! :)


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